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The Narcissist’s Toy Box
An illustration how the narcissist’s brain growth is stunted forever in its childhood state
Victims of narcissistic abuse share a common bond.
They think, “Nobody else could have a story as crazy as mine.” Then they do some research and discover there are many variations of nearly the same story. It’s as though narcs are following a script.
Much has been written about this “script” and its different phases. Less has been written about the “why?” of each phase. What could the narcissist be thinking?
Buckle in — we’re about to take a dive into the narcissistic mind.
The anti-boredom box
When I was 4 years old, there was a big white toy box at the foot of my mother’s bed. The top was cushioned so I could sit on it. All sorts of wonders awaited when I pulled back the lid: toy cars, stuffed animals, Play-Doh, a Slinky, bags of marbles. Whenever I got bored, I could always go to my toy box for a cure.
One day I found a Kermit the Frog doll in my toy box. Kermit became my favorite toy, the focus of all my attention. I talked to Kermit. He sat with me in my high chair at lunch. I took him to bed with me at night. He was my whole world.
